The Ideal Execution Of Your Bachelor Years
Bachelorhood is one of the most important stages of manhood. This is the time when you figure out what you want to do with your life and who you want to be in the world. This is also the time to figure out who your ideal woman is and what you can do to snag her. And most importantly, this is the time to travel, party, and fuck with the freedom that can only exist in the precious few years post-college and pre-marriage.
I believe that your bachelor years officially begin when you become (at least somewhat) financially independent and on your own. So if you are still tethered to your parents’ house, or caged up in a dorm room, or have your wings clipped by your first love, then you’re not a free cock. But if you’re an employed and single man in your 20s or 30s, then let the games begin.
The bachelor years fly by faster than you think, so it’s important to grab them by the balls and rub out every last drop of pleasure you can. While there may be many valid ways to get from happily single to happily married, there are some universally beneficial strategies to maximize your experience, raise your status, and find your perfect mate.The following is my outline of the four stages of bachelorhood and the ideal way to execute them in order to reach your potential as a man, get any immature and philandering tendencies out of your system, and enjoy your independence so you won’t regret giving it up for marriage. Not everybody has the same timeline in life, so take the age ranges as approximations.
Age 22-24, Exploring Your Options
What to Focus On:
This is the stage when you will make one of the most important decisions of your life: choosing your occupation. Your career path will directly affect your earning potential for the next forty years, so choose wisely. Once you decide, move forward ambitiously, whether that means going back to school or entering the workforce. If you’re feeling indecisive, take a year off to work or travel, but don’t get sidetracked.
Where to Live:
Save money and live with your bros, especially since quality time with your friends will become more limited in the future when your crew starts pairing up and having kids.
How to Spend Your Money:
Put any extra money you have towards traveling, shoestring style. There will be time to travel more comfortably when you are financially better off, but now is the time to traverse the globe without agenda or obligation. Grab a backpack and go experience the world by taking up a lover or an adventure in each country you visit.
How to Approach Women:
This is the time to explore, not get tied down. You should be approaching sex and dating as if each woman is an experience to learn from and savor in the moment. You may think you’ve got it all figured out, but trust me, you’ll be a different man in 10 years. You still need time to mature and become secure with who you are before you let a woman try and change you.
Age 25-27, Work Hard, Play Less
What to Focus On:
Hopefully by this point you’ve embarked on a career path that’s right for you. Now it’s time to bust your ass to get ahead. These are the best years to pay your dues at work or grad school because you are young enough to crank it out with little sleep and yet old enough to be taken seriously. This doesn’t mean you can’t have fun. But if you’re still drinking until you blackout and partying on weeknights, then it’s time for a reality check.
Where to Live:
Graduate from the faux frat house to an apartment with one or two responsible roommates.
How to Spend Your Money:
Invest your extra money right back into your career and improving your skills.
How to Approach Women:
It’s time to try out some monogamous relationships. So when you find a good woman and she wants a commitment, go ahead and dive in. Just hold out when it comes to marriage. Right now you’re still reaching your potential as a man and provider, and if you’re on the right track, your stock is going to increase even higher over the next few years. Don’t settle, and don’t stay in a relationship longer than a year with a woman who is not marriage potential.
Age 28-30, Raising Your Status
What to Focus On:
The last few years of your 20s are about raising your status so that you can attract a high quality woman who is more attractive than you. This means accruing assets that will allow you to provide for a family, getting in top shape, dressing with style, and generally improving yourself.
Where to Live:
Live on your own in a nice bachelor pad that women will want to spend time in.
How to Spend Your Money:
If you haven’t already, set up a retirement account and start investing. Also, spend what you need to upgrade your wardrobe and your pad.
How to Approach Women:
Date for quality not quantity. Think about what you want in a wife and date women who meet that standard. If you’re committed to a woman who doesn’t knock your socks off, move on and try again.
Age 31-33, Finding Your Mate
What to Focus On:
This is the stage in your life when you will make that other most important decision of your life: choosing your wife. Who you marry determines the course of the rest of your life. I don’t believe in soul-mates or fate; I believe in choices and consequences. Life isn’t easy, but if you choose your partner well, life will be better. If you don’t choose well, life will be worse.
Where to Live:
Live with the woman you plan to marry, ideally for at least a year before you wed so you can be sure of your compatibility.
How to Spend Your Money:
Start saving up to three months’ salary for an engagement ring.
How to Approach Women:
You don’t need to rush into marriage, but keep in mind that the highest quality women will be snatched up by their early 30s, and you will probably be most compatible with a woman close to your own age.
Only date women you are interested in marrying. But be open-minded: your future wife may not be who you expected. Approach every available woman you find intriguing and attractive, and follow up on each opportunity. But don’t drag it out for longer than a month or two if there’s no spark.
And when in doubt, if you’re in doubt, she’s undoubtedly not the one. Just keep in mind that fear is not the same thing as doubt. If you’re scared to make a commitment, then you’re likely to find fault in everyone. So address these issues now, because your stock will decline a little bit each year after age 35, unless you’re as incredibly rich and handsome as George Clooney.
